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2 Sensitive or 2 Emotional? 2 Moons to Celebrate You Part 2

September 28, 2016 By admin Leave a Comment

2 Sensitive or 2 Emotional?

Two Moons to Celebrate You! Part 2

What Color are Your Champagne Bubbles?

Wow! What a month and I know you’ve felt it! You’ve probably caught that strong vibe of change in the air, too.

We had a great response to the blog about people’s connection to being highly sensitive, and to the harvest moon celebration. (http://sparkleyourlightbooks.com/2-sensitive-emotional-celebrate-you/)

Unfortunately, in our society, we as women are under pressure to be restrained in our emotional lives. You may have learned to suppress your feelings or have been disregarded because your decisions were not based in “rational” thinking.

Consider this. Women are naturally known to use their sensitivity and intuition. As a parent you have a finely tuned sensitivity to your children. This is a sign of health, NOT disease. You trust that. In the past if you’ve allowed these aspects in other areas of your life to make you feel less than you are, now is the time to shed the weight of unworthiness and less than, wherever it may still be lurking.

As a highly sensitive person, parent, or grandparent honor that you are wired in a way that makes you more open to sensing what isn’t evident. Your intuition is your sparkling light, which allows you to shed light on a situation. Celebrating your gifts will help to recognize and honor your children’s gifts.

Two Ways to Celebrate Your Super Powers and Be Supported

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“What a transition! Every particle, fractal, facet, droplet, template, structure, you-name-it, has gone whoosh into a bazillion sparkles of light, waiting to either dissolve or coalesce into something truly wonderful ~ called your life experience.” Nalini – chaliceofwisdom.com

It’s so easy to forget how being highly sensitive is truly wonderful while you may still be recovering or feeling some of the chaotic, topsy turvey energy of the last cycle still moving about. You may also have noticed your children acting up a bit or out of sorts.

Here’s the good news. There’s a new moon on Saturday, October 1^st. This new moon is a special one as it is the first one after the ending of the 9-year cycle (some say a 26,000 year cycle). During the full moon you celebrated your accomplishments and really owning who you are. (And the kids will settle down a bit!)

Now, ride the energy of the new moon on Saturday, October 1st. Step through the doorway into the new energy on the planet. This new energy is calling you to go inward into your soul-connected self to celebrate your true self. It’s time to feel confident and joyful, dancing freely with life without the stories of less than or shame in any area of life.

New moons are the most spiritual and creative moons of the lunar cycle.

“It’s imperative to get to know yourself as you are becoming. Command your focus, presence, Self-patience, Self-kindness, Self-awareness and Self-centeredness in every moment. Crucial it is to concentrate your Presence in a stabilized field long enough to let your True Self settle in.” ~ Maureen Moss\

Let your true self and your gifts of intuition and sensitivity follow this new energy. Move into harmony and trust with your higher self and the divine plan. Celebrate as you use your gifts to amplify the feminine energy of unlimited possibilities powered from within you. What wants to birth inside and out?

“BE the way of the champagne bubble and be lifted into the love field with all the

light that you are.” ~Nalini

What do your sparkling champagne bubbles of life look like? What do they feel like?

Feel into your deeply sensitive and intuitive self. What is calling to you deep from within your Soul? What wants to expand and what spark wants to flame into new something new? What lights you up and gives you joy? How can you celebrate being a parent? Celebrate the divine plan that will lead you there gracefully as you listen to your inner whisperings.

Let your super power gift of sensitivity be your radar and your super power of intuition (not fear, worry or anxiety) guide you.

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Raise an imaginary glass of bubbling champagne to celebrate you!

Bonnie

P.S.Have you received a present and tried to figure out what it was? You picked it up to see how heavy it was, shook it, tipped it upside down, maybe even sniffed it? Then you unwrapped it and were delightfully surprised with what was inside? In the next post take a peek at Daily Presents: 8 Ways to Fan Your Inner Spark a way to celebrate you and walk hand and hand with you true self! You can receive an unexpected present every day!

One key element can transform your journey and your kids!

September 7, 2016 By admin Leave a Comment

One key element can transform your journey and your kids!

Intuition is the spark that lights the journey and

creativity is the path that takes you there.

I don’t know about you, but for me creativity has a mind of its own and an intuitive knowing. It can be a daunting, frustrating and tricky partner or a trustworthy, fun and exciting friend.

Okay, I hear your mind right now. You’re thinking, I’m not an artist, or a writer. I’m not creative and I don’t need another friend! I have enough going on in my life right now. At first that’s what I thought. We may think we’re not creative or it’s not important to us, but if you’re reading this I suspect deep inside you know differently. Women are especially intuitive and creativity is deeply connected to intuition. You are creatively, or not so creatively, painting the canvas of your own life. Although we think the outside world shapes our life but if you take a moment to tap into this thought, you know we create our lives from the inside out.

My inner knowing was so strong on this point that it prompted me to write this blog and share with you how I tap into my intuition and creativity to make life easier and to juggle those many things you have to do each day.

First there’s that intuitive spark, like a whisper, telling me what to write. It’s always infused with passion and when I begin to wrap my mind around it, I usually have the main points. Next, I ask my writing fairy to get the ideas and words ready for me. She must have been busy last week, because the words weren’t flowing. I had been out of town and out of my quiet and creative space. Because time was running out, I set an intention for myself to write the blog on the plane on my way home, hoping the writing fairy would be available then.

The night before we flew home, I woke up at 2:30 a.m. Have you ever been awakened early in the morning by a great idea? Well, that’s what I had hoped for. Unfortunately, it’s not what happened. I laid there for about thirty minutes, calming myself and centering my thoughts. When I fell back to sleep, I had the weirdest dream. At first, I didn’t understand the full significance.

In the dream, I was in a small town and I kept hearing a humorous, female voice. She told me which way to go when traveling and guided me to do what felt right in my heart. Although her advice is what I practice and share with others, it is often counter intuitive to what our rational minds may think is the best.

During my dream I felt a bit distrustful of this humorous female voice when I first heard it and a bit distrustful of myself and my process. Later in the dream, I turned to look in the mirror. Right there in front of me, on top of my head, was a talking doll in a purple dress! I realized in that moment that this funny female voice belonged to a doll sitting on the top of my head!

At first, I was relieved. Then, I started questioning. OMG! What if everyone could see the doll? What would they think? I’ll tell you what. They would think I was nuts and the doll proved it! Then I looked again in the mirror at the doll. And something inside of me shifted. I listened as she guided me to where I needed to go next. Intuitively, I knew it was perfect guidance. I trusted her completely. I also realized only I could see and hear her.

The dream continued. I dreamt that over the next few days things went smoother when I listened, and I watched the skeptics outside myself – stumble.

After this shift, and a few days later in the dream, I noticed a magical looking man sitting on the sidewalk. He seemed different than most of the people in the town. A woman approached him. She looked stressed. I could almost see and feel the struggles of her life. Somehow she must have sensed this magical looking man could help her. Intuitively, I knew he had some amazing gifts. Although I couldn’t see it, I was sure he was listening to a talking doll on his head, too. Can you imagine what his doll looked like? I can! And as soon as the woman told him what she wanted, she closed her eyes and instantly relaxed. Her face radiated light and I knew, without a doubt, when she opened her eyes she would have own her talking doll guiding and lighting up an easier path for her. Suddenly, the alarm went off. It was 4 a.m.

Although I ask for guidance in my dreams, dreams aren’t usually the source of my intuitive guidance, inspiration or creativity. You can see how this is a perfect example of how my friend, Creativity, inserted herself into my life in a dream. She clearly showed me how important it was to pay attention to that voice within called intuition.

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The one key element that very obvious to me from the dream that: You must trust that intuitive spark, let it flame into faith in yourself as a person and a parent. Don’t allow negativity to cover the sparkle in your heart and the sparkling light you are. Trust how your intuition shows up for you in a word, an image, a feeling in your body, or your inner voice. It will show up in different ways. It may show up differently for you than how it communicates with you about children or grandchildren.

I understood the guidance from the dream was an example of unexpected creativity. Who would have thought dreaming of a talking doll on my head could help me understand how intuition and creativity to make life easier? The talking doll served as a reminder that when you allow your true nature to be lit and sparkle from within, your intuition partnered with creativity can light the path to something greater.

It’s time to trust yourself. To believe that your gift of intuition and creativity is the one key element to living and raising a family with more grace, magic, health, and happiness.

A Thoughts to ponder post and share…

As a parent how has your intuition helped you parent your children in a positive ways?

To talking dolls, intuition and magic,

Bonnie

P.S. Angel Violet can help young children (3-6+) easily connection to their heart and intuition. Angel Violet’s Magic Wings

You Can Break Your Happiness “Glass Ceiling” !

June 20, 2016 By admin Leave a Comment

“When you’re a kid happiness is planned for you. After that?

Not so much.”

~ Ellen Steidman, Time Special Edition, The Science of Happiness

As adults we think we don’t need to focus on being happy; we have other more important things to do ……or do we?

Science continues to search for answers to what makes people happy, creates a life of more joy and brings a sense of well-being. What may not surprise you is that the research is the premise of many spiritual practices. If we are here only a short time, why not be happy? Waiting until… never creates happiness.

Each One of us Has a Mission

If your belief is you came here with a mission to make the planet a better place, then being truly happy from the inside out is something you may want to continue to master. Remember the happiness ceiling is invisible so don’t get fooled. We aren’t talking about Pollyanna happiness, but the deep welling up of being happy for no reason!

A documented, positive side effect of being happy is an increase in physical health and financial abundance. Yes, positive psychologists have conducted study after study pointing to this conclusion.

I know what you are thinking- especially now. My happiness ceiling is lower. How can I find even a ray of happiness with the political climate, the violence in the world, or personal challenges I am currently navigating?

Despite all of the above, there are ways to claim some happiness for yourself

Partner and Share

Research has repeatedly found that married couples have higher levels of happiness than unmarried individuals. It’s a result of the sense of partnership, sharing, doing things together and having common values. If you are married look for ways to connect more often, laugh and find free time together. Let go of the little stuff.

That doesn’t mean that single folks aren’t happy. Look for friends who like to do the same things you do and spend time with them! Happiness is there for everyone. It’s an inside out work in progress.

Children: Providing a Leg Up on the Happiness Ladder?

Here is the skinny on that one. In her article, The Parenting Paradox, Brenda Luscombe says after the excitement and celebration of having a baby, the parenting reality kicks in full force with the labor intensive, sleep-deprived task of caring for a little one.

When sleep hasn’t clouded a new parent’s brain, the realization is that it will cost them a half a million dollars to raise their precious bundle. And when they are finished raising this child, “they leave”. For some, this reality of their offspring living their own lives results in a lonely season of life.

Is this happiness?

In her book, All the Joy and None of the Fun, Jennifer Senior says, “Mothering and Fathering aren’t just about the things we do. Being a mother or being a father is who we are”. The research leans in favor of people with children who embrace parenting as being happier. This leads us to believe it really is what you bring as a person to the parenting unit and how genuinely happy you are with yourself. The happier you are as a parent, the happier your children will be.

A happiness hint for parents with children of any age. “A parent’s first job is not to raise kids but to enjoy them.” ~ Time Special Edition, The Science of Happiness-The Parenting Parado

Finding the Happiness Within

Remember your ceiling is invisible. And in a world that is uncertain and at times violent is it important to find a place within of peace and inner happiness? Remember your ceiling is invisible. Truly, that is the only place you will find it. Happiness can’t be provided by the outside world. There is no magic pill, potion or outside source for being healthier, richer, or better than the next person. When you look inside, you will find that your inner compass is the only one you need to follow for living a life of more joy and well-being.

Everyone can cultivate happiness. You can break through your happiness ceiling whether you are single, married, divorced, parents or grandparents. This doesn’t mean you ignore your feelings. It’s important to recognize your feelings of distress, anxiety, anger or depression, which are contrary to feeling joy and happiness.

As you acknowledge your beliefs and worries you can shift your focus towards something different. It’s all about focus. You can’t be grateful and worry at the same time. There are practical ways you can foster a stronger sense of well-being and ultimately inner happiness and joy. (Happily grateful)

“Life-It is only possible to live happily ever after on a day-to-day basis”

~Margaret Wander Bonanno

You may already be doing some things that create inner happiness. But let me suggest a few ideas to a bolster your happiness level and those close to you, including your children.

Raise Your Happiness Ceiling

Focus on the Positive

Always, always, always find things to be grateful for in your life. Even something as simple as getting home safely at the end of the day.
Celebrate and use your gifts instead of focusing on what you perceive as your ”imperfections” or mistakes.
Be generous to yourself and purchase “an experience” rather than purchasing a material item.
Find a moment for a random act of kindness or generosity to someone you know rather than for a stranger.
Try to get an “outside” perspective of a challenging situation and draw out the “gifts” from that experience. Be grateful for it.
On social media: limit your exposure to or edit the posts that are anxiety or fear producing. Choose posts that are uplifting and positive to post and read.

Focus on Deliberate Ways to Create Happiness in your Life

Know what makes you happy and put it into your schedule. If you don’t schedule it, it won’t happen.
Take care of yourself with a simple pleasure.
Cultivate 10-20 minutes of regular “quiet” or meditative time each day.
What can you do to change a challenging situation that would be uplifting? It may be a prayer, taking an action step or doing nothing but realizing it isn’t about you. Be the observer.
Unplug from the outside world (TV, electronics, social media, etc. and be present in the moment. Enjoy who and what you are being present with, knowing everything will be there when you plug back in.
Make every Sunday fun day.
Go off the grid periodically. Go away and leave your electronics on silent.
Make happiness your goal in how you live your life. Do whatever reminds you to be happy each day.

Diswas-Diener says, “Don’t fit joyful activities into your day – fit your days around joyful activities. Do you ever hear devoted church attendees say ’Can we reschedule church because something came up?’ You need to have that church mentality about whatever it is that gives you pleasure. If you say your weeks are full, find that next blank spot in our calendar.” This is what happy people do.

I used to love to swing… and it still makes me happy.

What will you choose to make you happy? Remember everyone around you benefits when you are happy. Post and let us know as will uplift those who read this!

Breaking through the happiness glass ceiling,

Bonnie

P.S. For Kids try a boost of happiness with a sample of Angel Violet’s Magic Cards on the side panel!

P.P.S. To break your happiness ceiling go to The Natural Path toHappiness

Create an “Appreciation App”

November 18, 2015 By admin Leave a Comment

Create an “Appreciation” App

“Grateful kids look outside their one-person universe and understand that their parents and other people do things for them… prepare dinner, dole out hugs, buy toys, etc. Lewis continues saying “On the flip side, kids who aren’t taught to be grateful end up feeling entitled and perpetually disappointed.”~Charlotte Latvala

Despite the darkness of what may happen in the outside world, the tinkling sounds of angels voices and the energy of blessings can still be heard as a five-year-old shared what made her “happy and grateful” during the day.

The light in her eyes and the joy in her voice lit up the room at the dinner table. Hers was a simple gratitude – one of picking clover to share with each of us. She had so much fun picking clover earlier in the day.

With great anticipation she turned to her Dad, then her mom, and asked each what they were grateful for and what made them happy.

The two-year old was not to be left out from the five-year old’s happy, probing question. He, too, was able to share his gratitude in his two-year-old language. It was wonderful to be in the moment of Now when many are already ahead into the Christmas Season.

As the Thanksgiving season approaches, November is known as a time for children and adults to focus on being thankful and appreciative. Unfortunately, this may be the only time of the year many children, and teens, think about things for which they are grateful, value and hold dear.

This season of thanks is a perfect time to start a new ritual or expand an existing one with your children or teens to create a deeper sense of gratitude, kindness and appreciation that lasts the whole year.

It’s a great time to create an Appreciation ‘App’

Have fun creating appreciation apps that last all year,

Bonnie