Children’s Feelings | Sparkle Your Light Books

Children naturally recall their connection to being created from a loving energy. They evoke their innate gifts. They remember they aren’t powerless. It is easy to get caught up in the outside world where we are encouraged to build “cognitive muscles”, but not the “heart muscle“- in ourselves and our children.

A few weeks ago, my brother and our cat were experiencing major health challenges at the same time. When Sienna, five years old, heard about this she wanted draw a picture to help the cat feel better, and so we did. The heart-loving energy put into a picture made us both feel better.

We called our team of Angels Angel Violet, Angel Lucy and Angel Charlie and sent them to both my brother and the cat. The last thing we did was close our eyes. First, we focused on our hearts, feeling the love. Then we took a deep breath in. As we let it go we sent love from our hearts to my brother and cat.

I am sure it was transferred to my brother and to the cat, for the next day both were significantly better. Of course we will never know for sure if what we did helped, but the heart message we received was that it did!

We tend to forget that when we’re connected to something bigger than ourselves, and only give it a thought when synchronicities abound. After sending love with Sienna, I happened to look through Doc Childre’s book Teaching Children to Love: 80 Activities, Games, and Fun for raising Balanced Children in Unbalanced Times. (Heartmath.com)

Although I am familiar with Heart Math activities and electronics, I didn’t know there was something called Heart Lock In for kids. Reading through the steps I realized how it was similar to what I did with Sienna. Simple, but powerful, actions to remind children (and adults) that they deserve love and that there is plenty for everyone.

What a wonderful reminder for February, the month of Love and Valentine’s day!

Heart Math research shows that children who lack love have a harder time learning. When placed in a nurturing and caring environment, children love to learn.

Love is important. Teaching children how to love themselves is very important. Loving others is a natural part of a child’s fun and enjoyment in life. It’s easy to lose the feeling of unconditional love among the business of life and the “rules” of home and school. Love is essential to balance the complexities offered by life. Model self-love and self-nurturing to children whenever you can.

Heart Lock In For Kids by Doc Childre

Explain that Heart Lock In is like putting a key into the lock of your heart and opening the door of your heart so love can come in and so you can send love out

Focus on your heart the place you can put your hand on your heart and pretend you have a key to the door of your heart
You can turn the key and unlock the door
Breathe into your heart. As you breath in through your nose you are bringing more love in and when you breath out through your nose you can send love out to someone.

During this month of love and heart focus, start a new ritual. Create time at night, at the dinner table or whenever your heart feels it right. Help yourself and your children to open the door to your hearts. Fill your hearts with love …. and then send the flow of love out.

Using the simple sending of love will create an environment of nurture, connectivity and enjoyment for both the sender and the receiver!

Remembering the love within our heart creates magic,

Bonnie

Connect To Your Child and Get The Real Scoop On What’s Happening

How was your day?

How many times have we used the “How was your day?” question to pry information from our kids, grandkids or even our spouses and they responded only with a vague “Fine”? Alternatively, how many times do we absentmindedly ask

children communication, children's feelings, kids emotions, children & positive psychology, conscious parenting — What are your three favorite things from today?

“How was your day?” and then we stop listening? We’ve all done it at some point.

With a new school year starting, what can you do to connect to your child and get the real scoop on what’s happening in your child’s day and possibly nip a problem in the bud?

Asking “How was your day?” really is a great way to start, but it’s what you do next that makes the difference.

If they simply answer “Good” or “Fine”, use that as a perfect lead-in to find out what was good or fine. Ask “What three things were good or fine?” or “What were your three favorite things about today?” If your child is a preschooler, you may only want to ask for one or two favorite things. (In the next blog we will talk about what to do if it has been a yucky day). Now pay attention to what your child says. Listening with your full attention, even if you are driving or cooking dinner, deepens your connection to your child. As you make this closer connection by listening, focusing on them and responding specifically to what they are sharing, you are more likely to get cooperation from your child as the day and evening continue.

If you have more than one child, this approach also reinforces the wait-your-turn rule, yet strengthens the connection between your children. Notice what they focus on. If snack or play is their favorite time (or math or science class), ask them more questions. You may learn things you didn’t know. Be playful if you hear the same responses day after day; help them look for other things — even small things — that they like or enjoy. Challenge older children to come up with something new each day. Be sure to share your own favorite things for the day, too!

Focusing on what you enjoy – the positive – starts to cultivate gratitude. It’s so easy for all of us to place emphasis on what is not working. There are challenges in everyone’s day; it’s a part of life. However, when you end the day on a negative note, it sets the tone for the rest of the evening. Who intentionally sets out to have a yucky evening with family? No one! So as you focus on how beautiful the sky was in the morning or how you enjoyed working with one of your workmates — and encourage your children to do the same — it sets the tone for both you and your children to have a pleasant evening instead.

Be creative! Ask questions and remember to really listen. You are modeling great listening and communication skills as you strengthen your connection with your children.

Post and let us know what some of your children’s favorite things are.

Loving the fun of listening to children,

Bonnie

PS If you don’t have children, at the end of each day think of your three favorite things from the day! Be playful your inner child loves that!

Lock in Love

How Was Your Day?

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